HOW MEN AND WOMEN SOLVE THEIR PROBLEM

Hello everyone 💕 Welcome back to my blog .. In this post I will share about how men and women solve their problem and this post based on Jhon Gray's book with the tittle "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".

How a women in dealing with a problem and a men must understand the situation? 

One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they cope with stress. Men become

increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved. At these times, a man's needs for feeling good are different from a woman's. He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems. Not understanding and accepting these differences creates unnecessary friction in our relationships. If he can't find a solution then he does something to forget his problems, like reading the news or playing

a game. By disengaging his mind from the problems of his day, gradually he can relax. If his stress is really great it takes getting involved with something even more challenging, like racing his car, competing in a contest, or climbing a mountain.

When a Venusian becomes upset or is stressed by her day, to find relief, she seeks out someone she trusts and then talks in great detail about the problems of her day. When Venus share feelings of being overwhelmed, they suddenly feel better. This is the Venusian way.

On Venus sharing your problems with another actually is considered a sign of love and trust and not a

burden. Venus are not ashamed of having problems. Their egos are dependent not on looking

"competent" but rather on being in loving relationships. They openly share feelings of being overwhelmed, confused, hopeless, and exhausted.

A Venusian feels good about herself when she has loving friends with whom to share her feelings and

problems. A Martian feels good when he can solve his problems on his own in his cave. These secrets of feeling good are still applicable today.

 

And what if a men deals with a problem? What should a men do?

When a man is stressed he will withdraw into the cave of his mind and focus on solving a problem. He generally picks the most urgent problem or the most difficult. He becomes so focused on solving this one problem that he temporarily loses awareness of everything else. Other problems and responsibilities fade into the background. At such times, he becomes increasingly distant, forgetful, unresponsive, and preoccupied in his relationships. For example, when having a conversation with him at home, it seems as if only 5 percent of his mind is available for the relationship while the other 95 percent is still at work. His full awareness is not present because he is mulling over his problem, hoping to find a solution. The more stressed he is the more gripped by the problem he will be. At such times he is incapable of giving a woman the attention and feeling that she normally receives and certainly deserves.

And how do men react when women need attention?

When women talk about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him responsible. The more problems, the more he feels blamed. He does not realize that she is talking to feel better. A man doesn't know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.If a woman is really upset a man assumes she is blaming him. If she seems less upset, then he assumes she is asking for advice.

If he offers solutions to her problems, she just continues talking about more problems. After offering two or three solutions, he expects her to feel better. This is because Martians themselves feel better with solutions, as long as they have asked for a solution to be offered. When she doesn't feel better, he feels his solutions have been rejected, and he feels unappreciated. On the other hand, if he feels attacked, then he begins to defend himself. He thinks if he explains himself that she will stop blaming him. The more he defends himself, however, the more upset she becomes. He doesn't realize that explanations are not what she needs. She needs him to understand her feelings and let her move on to talk about more problems. If he is wise and lust listens, then a few moments after she is

complaining about him, she will change the subject and talk about other problems as well.

Oke guys I hope you understand different men and women,, if men use logic more in overcoming the problem and if women are more concerned with their feelings. Thank you for the take time to read my blog and see you the next post my new article 💛💛💛 .. love you guys!!!!!